The earth is slowing. Gravity is slacking off. My mic is floating.
Radio waves are reacting strangely to the loss of gravity, the change in magnetism as the earth slows. So, if you are having difficulty receiving this message, we apologise, but… won’t do anything about it.
Doing things, right? Movement, y’know? Existing?
Do you see what I mean?
Anonymous asked: Uh. Can you even choose the ethnicity of a child when you adopt it. That sounds so very fucking wrong.
No. It’s not about choosing the ethnicity. But, as someone who has gone through the foster care/adoption parent program I can tell you that there are hundreds of children out there waiting for loving homes and it seems (no direct data to back this up) that most of the would be parents are white.
In my class of 15 parent couples, only one was black. However, the largest number of children in my area waiting to be adopted, are black. The agencies try their hardest to match children with same race and ethnicity parents, but when there are an overwhelming number of children and willing parents, it isn’t always that easy.
As we saw recently with Maria (the ‘white’ Romani girl, taken from her adoptive Romani parents in Greece and not reunited with her Romani birth mother), she is a minority of which there are few available adoptive or foster parents. She is now in a system that does NOT recognize her ethnicity and WILL not honour it.
I’ve heard of many children, in transracial adoptions who are really lost as adults (look up the “Operation Baby Lift” during the Vietnam war, when hundreds of children were removed from their (often) unwilling parents and adopted out in the US), more so if their original culture and language have been denied to them.
You absolutely can choose the ethnicity of the child you adopt. Like, adoption agencies ask you if you have “preferences”, and you can reject any baby that falls outside of those “preferences”.
To some extent yes.
Generally though, these preferences are more along the lines of whether you are able to give enough time to a special needs child, whether you have the space for a sibling group, whether you have other children to take into account (some families with a girl for example, may not be willing to take an older boy, for safety reasons), and the age range.
You also state your level of comfort in adopting a child of another race or ethnicity and are counseled strongly on your choices. Most of the white families in my group expressed concern at their ability to adopt an African American or Asian child, for just the reasons we’ve been talking about.
Of course, where private (and very expensive) adoption is concerned, you choose the ethnicity of the child BEFORE you start the process.
And, one final thing. This obviously DOESN’T apply to everyone and it’s very much up to the families in the process. There are MANY MANY successful and happy transracial adoptions.
I was talking to my brother about women’s attitudes towards their bodies, especially regarding weight/fat, and when he said “most guys don’t notice/care about that kind of thing,” I tried to explain why it was a lot more complicated than that. I ended up telling this story.
apolla92 asked: How are people capable of hurting others simply because of a difference in ideologies despite all the biological mechanisms (i.e. mirror neurons) that help us relate to others? Has our present society affected our capacity to empathize? Also, in general which is more influential on the human mind: empathy or hatred/violence?
These are very difficult questions to answer, but our minds are built for more than just empathy, and hatred and violence are also born out of structures that are meant for strengthening social bonds and creating healthy communities.
We evolved in small groups, kinda like little human herds, and these herds functioned best when there were tight connections within the herd. That means human brains are built to value in-group empathy over out-of-group empathy. It also means that we’re built to respect and follow authority figures if they are consistent in our lives. The herd needs structure and support, and that comes at a cost when interacting with other herds, especially when there was competition for resources that could mean the difference between your child living or dying.
Hatred is generally born in fear, fear of disruption of something someone cares about, whether that’s the purity of their country, their loyalty to a certain group of people, or a belief that the world is great as it is and it is being corrupted by others.
So the real question is, what is stronger, empathy or fear? Unfortunately, fear is, which is why we have to fight it not only in ourselves, but in the world,. We do this by making the world a more stable place where there is less to be afraid of. Also by turning off 24 hour news channels.
#fear is the mind killer, fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration#
Like many, if not most, trans women of color, I have a lot of serious anger about the Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDoR). It’s flawed not just in concept, “owned” by a white trans woman who shun…
I tried to make the title be a 2Pac reference too, but that was just pushing it. But maybe “Learn to see me as a (sister) instead of two distant strangers”?
THIS IS IMPORTANT! Please read the full article!
“It’s time to listen to trans women of color…(I can wish for every day, but) at least one day a year.
….There is such a severe disconnect that part of what would help is that if white trans people in general listened to us this one day a year it could be a catalyst, or so I try to believe. Our realities include much more than how we’re seen in the TDoR list-of-names format: dead people. We are so much more than that, and our realities might be uncomfortable to the “trans community” or maybe, just maybe, the “trans community” will see us as something more than just a list of names of dead people and a bunch of inconvenient bodies and realities to dismiss in life.
Reforming TDoR is a huge part of beginning to include trans women of color as part of the trans community. It’s all about addressing the violence against us as trans women of color. And, well, it’s part of healing, a matter on which I must defer once again to the Prophet Pac: “It takes skill to be real, time to heal each other.” Let’s get started.”
This is a very interesting article about Transgender Day of Remembrance. It’s important to remember that although most of us have experienced transphobia and many of us even fear for our personal safety, the vast majority of violence is directed toward transgender women of color. Looking at the list of the dead, in this year as in all years (that I know of), they are primarily trans* women of color. While some of the points of this article may be controversial to some people, most should at least accept the point that we need to all make a larger effort to listen to and include trans* women of color and not co-opt their experiences in TDoR and in our movements in general.
Anonymous asked: With all due respect: Who the fuck are you and how do you know so fucking much about animals?
I was bitten by a fucking werebiologist, and now every fucking full moon, I sprint across the fucking moors howling “I need to tell you all about how fucking diapause affects the way kangaroos fucking fuck!”.
It’s a lonely life, but I’m confident that some day I’ll find a fucking cure.